“I got married in 1989 when the trend was to wear pink wedding dresses, and the groom would have his hair in a colored mohawk.”

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"Apparently, you were supposed to take it, put it under your pillow, and dream of your future spouse?! Even as a kid, I didn't get it. So, I tried to eat it, but it tasted terrible anyway — dry and full of currants, etc. (Oh, BTW, the top tier was meant to be saved to be eaten on the couple's first anniversary. Yuck.)."

"I agree. Two of the last three wedding gifts I sent went unacknowledged. When I married in 1999, I spent at least a week writing handwritten thank-you notes for each wedding gift, describing in detail the gift sent and how we would use it in our married life. Today, even an email would be welcome. I don't mean to patronize, but I know that people like any type of thank-you note!"

"I still find it terribly tacky personally, but I also don't mind giving money as it negates the need for shopping. It's the begging that makes me cringe."

"Straight-up begging for money in your wedding invitation. I can't tell you how many wedding invitations I've recently gotten with an insert asking for cash. The last one even included a weird poem written in iambic pentameter asking for money. I get it; weddings are expensive, but the answer isn't having your guests pay for it."

"I still have plenty of traditional, formal designs, but my most popular designs are pop culture-inspired and all kinds of fun stuff. I love it!!! Your wedding should celebrate you!"

"Your parents invited some of their business partners and some neighbors. All in all, there might be 150 guests."

"Destination weddings with multi-day itineraries — the time and expense ask is over-the-top. You're asking guests to take multiple days off work, shoulder the expense of long-range, multi-day travel, and multiple formal and semi-formal outfits for a multi-day 'celebration of your love.' Plus, multi-day bridal showers and engagement weekends? Get over yourself."

"Also, my husband and I walked down the long church aisle together. I didn't want anyone 'giving me away.'"

"You have a wedding day, not a year. It wasn't a big deal if someone brought kids to a wedding. (That happened at mine, so we asked the DJ to play a few kids' songs for them and just rolled with it.) Bachelorette parties were a night and not a trip, and when people couldn't come, they weren't kicked out of the wedding or friend group. There are so many more rules today. The etiquette back then was to RSVP on time, dress up, be polite, and be grateful. These are things that the current wedding culture has pushed aside."

"Also, money was not asked for, and there was no bridal shower, but there was a single stag/hen night out, usually the night before the wedding — no weekend away with planned activities."

"We have good memories of the day, and we have been together for 38 years."

Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.